This is something in my mailbox when I registered at Like A Garment.
So perhaps this would benefit you men and women.
We have mentioned that a couple that wishes to have a successful relationship must understand each other’s needs. A husband must take into account that a woman’s needs and expectations are different than a man’s. Great intimacy can only be achieved if a woman finds a complete, fulfilling relationship.
So what are women looking for in a marriage?
Women get married to find a special best friend. They want someone who will share their secrets, laugh and joke with them, love them, cherish them, adore them, be romantic with them, and make them feel beautiful and sexy. They want someone who will be attracted to them emotionally through their personality, and attracted to them physically through their bodies.
A woman wants a partner who will strive together with her through this life; laughing and rejoicing through the good times, and sticking by each other and supporting each other through the bad times. She wants a man strong in his deen who can stand up and take the responsibility of the household, and help raise the children in accordance with Islam.
A woman wants her husband to be her friend, companion, and soul mate.
Any good husband must realize that a woman’s primary need is emotional.He must take into account the prophetic tradition “The best of you are those who are best to their wives,” [Sahih al-Bukhari], and then strive to be the best to his wife.
Men have been assigned the responsibility by Allah to take care of their wives, and this entails treating them with love and respect, and striving to make them happy. If a husband can fulfill his wife’s primary needs, not only will Allah reward him, his wife will be content with him, and together the couple’s life will be more harmonious. Moreover, when a woman’s needs are fulfilled she will be more willing to fulfill her husband’s needs.
The best way to satisfy a woman’s emotional needs is to listen to her and respond to her with compassion. By listening to her intently, with your undivided attention, and taking a genuine interest in what she has to say, she will feel loved, cherished and important. Realize that when she approaches you with her problems, she doesn’t necessarily want solutions, she just wants sympathy and understanding.
Speaking from my opinion, this is what I need and what I want the most, before anything else come to the picture. Once Men fullfiling this simple deed, She will fullfilling everything for you. This deeds can make women feel solid and bold...again, does it involved any money? Just a small action of listening, speaking (nice words) which does not required any single cent.
Sweet is it when she return back home later than you, you welcum her home with a smile, a hug and drink just like how she did all the time for you. A hug after tiring day will place back the diligent spirit in her. Same like little kids, lots of hugs and touch will make them grow with confident.
Remind me of Adit's romantic scripts in Eiffel I'm In Love, "Kalo lu mau kerja, boleh. Tapi tidak boleh melebihi jam kerja guwe!" . Why?...Because he wants his wife being able to welcum him at home.
It's not going to be simple and easy but it's not that hard to build a famili with Mawaddah Warahmah. From 1 single step, it will lead you other steps to the top. InsyaAllah!. All the best to my married frens out there.
Ps: Have you find ur ultimate special besterestest friend that will lead you together to HEAVEN??